Inherent War Between the Sexes.

[labelwench]

It's like what do we know about anything at all, all we do is make it all up as we go along, until then, we are the unwritten...

Everything else is plagiarism, plagiarism being the highest form of wisdom.

Indeed.

Each of us is our own book, waiting to be written (experienced) and while many are actually written up in life or posthumously, the majority of us lead our lives in quiet obscurity, which is often preferable as it allows us more time to pursue our own course with fewer distractions.

The number of books that have been written in aid of men and women to improve their ability to relate is rather humorous, given that no two individuals or relationships are identical. They have only to learn to speak to and inquire of each other respectfully.

Apparently men speak more than women, according to research.

[melanie]

You know you've found some one really special when you can just shut the fk up for a minute and comfortably share silence with them.

That's my idea of heaven, when you can share a life with someone without ever having to say a word.

Except when you need to communicate for what ever reason obviously, otherwise, just be blissfully present in each others company for the sheer joy of sharing beingness.

[labelwench]

You know you've found some one really special when you can just shut the fk up for a minute and comfortably share silence with them.

That's my idea of heaven, when you can share a life with someone without ever having to say a word.

Except when you need to communicate for what ever reason obviously, otherwise, just be blissfully present in each others company for the sheer joy of sharing beingness.

Precisely.

Amazingly, I am married to such a man. We have become almost telepathic, lol. He likes cats and is very understanding of their needs and I am likewise with the horses. He just got his motorcycle out from winter storage, the driveway now clear enough of ice and snow to reach the highway. I was thinking that we hadn't been to the Chinese restaurant 7 miles away in some time, and before long he asked me if I could arrange my day to meet him there at 4:00 p.m. as he was going to go riding for a few hours and I had likewise planned for my steeds.

At 3:59:30 p.m., he was pulling in from the north side and I was pulling in from the south. We parked, looked at each other and just giggled.

"Talk about timing", he said......

[timeparticle]

It's hard to communicate torment to your close personal relations. The feelings are so locked in, and suppressed, they seem too far away to explain, yet their pain is very close.

When you are in a relationship, such stuck feelings of torment can be felt by the other person. In fact, the person not in the torment is suffering for his or her lover because of the 'stuckness', the unwillingness to give the torment up. Anger will most often arise from the situation, because the torment is not shared.

Anger and frustration becomes rampant unless those feelings of torment are brought out, and shared. Such is the character of torment, itself. It creates anger, just by sitting there, inside, by both in the relationship.

Battles are fought because of one's suffering. This is the inherent war's ugly side, for men and women.

Communication becomes nearly impossible, and war becomes easier....

[labelwench]

Torment is a very personal thing, and as you state, it can be nearly impossible to share with a loved one, especially if their history does not include any experiencing of same, and one would hope that, indeed, they had been spared such a fate. Yet persons and animals can sense the pain in others and strive to comprehend and intervene, which may sometimes even make matters worse, though their intentions be good. The only person who can deal with one's torments be self, though sometimes it is advisable to seek the help of another for guidance, as in the process of wrestling one's demons, one may be bad company at best, and a potential danger to oneself and others, depending on the nature of the disturbed beast within. Many in torment turn to substances as a coping strategy, and their conduct while under the influence then often becomes identified as the problem, when it is but a symptom.

Above based on my own experiences and observations, which are undoubtedly subjective and biased to some degree. One cannot be entirely objective when one stands too close to torment, be it their own or other.

It's hard to communicate torment to your close personal relations. The feelings are so locked in, and suppressed, they seem too far away to explain, yet their pain is very close.

When you are in a relationship, such stuck feelings of torment can be felt by the other person. In fact, the person not in the torment is suffering for his or her lover because of the 'stuckness', the unwillingness to give the torment up. Anger will most often arise from the situation, because the torment is not shared.

Anger and frustration becomes rampant unless those feelings of torment are brought out, and shared. Such is the character of torment, itself. It creates anger, just by sitting there, inside, by both in the relationship.

Battles are fought because of one's suffering. This is the inherent war's ugly side, for men and women.

Communication becomes nearly impossible, and war becomes easier....