All real things are in the present.
No observer or instrument has ever come from the past or the future to us here in the present.
I don't recall every having been in the past, because when I was there it was the present.
And when I reach that place some call the future, it will be the present as well.
The present is really all there is.
All of us have regrets. We would like to go back in time and change what we did, or change how events unfolded. But the past can't be changed because it has no physical existence. The only way to change what happened is by altering ourselves in the present.
I was once very unkind to one of my sons. After my outburst, I very much wanted to go back and take back the words I said and the anger I expressed. But the past had vaporized. It was gone. There was no going back. If I was going to repair what I had broken, I would have to do it in the present. So I went to find my son in the present. I knew I wouldn't find him in the past or in the future. And in the present, I found him lying on his bed. He was crying. I knelt down beside him. He rolled his head to look at me. He said, "I'm sorry, Papa." I started to cry as well, "And I'm sorry, too" I said, "I shouldn't have said the things I did. You are a wonderful and sweet boy, and I was wrong to treat you in the way I did. Will you forgive me?"
And suddenly, in the present, I was forgiven...and I am forgiven still. My son forgave me in the present. I forgave myself in the present. I am forgiven still.
We are who we are in the present. The goal is to make those attributes we strive for constant in the present. I think that is the path to discipline.


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